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3 Ways to Completely Change The Way You See Yourself.

Updated: Nov 18, 2022

How to Start Developing A Healthy Self Image.

Do you find it hard to give yourself or receive a complement? Do you find it even harder to look in the mirror with a soft smile? Do you find yourself comparing yourself to the next person? If you were looking in the mirror right now, what five words would you use to describe yourself?


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Friend, this appears to be a tough exercise, but the reality is- there are many who struggle with self-image, they will find this and that they don't like about themselves. They see this and that in the mirror they wish they could change. Either they are too tall or short, too curvy, or too slim. The world and those around them will reflect these deep emotions that lie within by criticising them. I know this because I’ve been there- tallest and curviest girl in the class, add puberty and you are dealing with acne too! This was my experience and, what I know is- this can carry itself for years if not dealt with.

Today I share with you 3 ways that can change the way you see yourself, that have worked for me with hopes of this being a start for you to develop a healthy self-image.


3 Ways to Completely Change The Way You See Yourself.


Yes, Flaws and All.

The movie The Greatest Showman may be the best teacher for this point. Showing us diverse people, different from others in society, who are brought together by a visionary and unapologetically display their talents.

You may have gone through others criticising you, pointing out your flaws or feeling you need to be like the next person to make a difference.

The first step to embracing that person in the mirror Is just to accept them, as they are. You may have done this or that; at this stage, it’s all about having the courage to own it and accept yourself as you are.


Aka. Do Something.

You’ve probably heard of the quote, “the only constant in life is change”, this is the only certainty we have. Nothing ever stays the same, and we do ourselves a disservice by wanting to remain the same.

It’s one thing to accept ourselves, however, if we looker deeper at what’s going on, there may be parts of us that are deeply yearning for change.

A couple of months after having my son, I had extra weight- as much as I accepted who I was, I knew I had to do something about it. I did what I could to develop a healthy lifestyle, which saw me losing 30kgs (66lbs)

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty”. Maya Angelou.

We see what others have achieved or where they are, however, don’t know what they have gone through to get where they are. When we look to others, may it be a source of inspiration for what is possible.

Know What You Can and Cannot Change and Do something About It

The Serenity Prayer - God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference" attributed to Reinhold Niebuhr

Make peace with what cannot be changed and change what you can. Friend, when you take small active steps to create the life you love, we will be having a different conversation a year from now.


True Beauty Is An Inside Job.

A friend was seeking dating advice from someone older and wiser. The biggest piece of advice she got for finding a life partner was, he needs to be "happy inside". When we make peace with our existence, and who we are, we embrace each part of our being. We look in the mirror and love what we see.

We can make external changes, unless we do the inner work, the external reverts, and we find ourselves on this vicious rollercoaster.

“Every next level of your life will demand a different version of you” Lisa Messenger.

I can add to that by saying, the one thing that will sustain you on each level is that deeply cemented love for yourself! Self-love does not mean being ok and being complacent; it also means having the courage to be truthful with yourself and knowing when you need to bring yourself back to alignment.

The key to completely change the way you see yourself is true love for yourself

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”. CS Lewis.

This is my encouragement for you now. To start where you are, here and now and develop that loving relationship with yourself.

To support your intention, I developed a Self-Love Guide and Workbook, The Ultimate Self-Love Starter Kit: How to Start loving Yourself, Even When It Hurts and When You Don’t Know How, with 3 keys you can put into practice immediately to have that relationship with yourself.

If you are ready for emotional freedom, ready to take the next steps to reclaim your joy, and peace, I would love to speak with you and see how best I can support you on your journey of healing to igniting true love for yourself and living an abundant life. You can visit to book a time for us to speak. I have provided a link for this in the show notes. This is a 20-minute call, where we get to find out your intentions and goals and the best resources I have that can support you on your journey.

Wishing you all my best always,


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